Nobody likes pain. Regardless of the type of pain. Why? Because it hurts. It doesn’t matter if the pain is physical, mental, emotional, or heartbreak, it hurts. Sometimes though, we actually need to suffer that pain in order to begin the healing process. While no one likes the suffering that goes along with the feeling of pain, everyone loves the feel when we have pushed through the pain and come out the other side stronger and better than before. Go ahead. Push through it. You are that good. You are that strong.
While most of us are being festive and attending holiday parties this time of year, it’s important to remember that millions suffer in silence. Maybe they have no family to celebrate with. Maybe they’re homeless. Maybe there was an extremely painful event that happened during the holidays when they were younger. It’s so important to remember this as we celebrate. Acknowledge those who may be in pain and be respectful of those who either have forgotten how to be happy at this time of year, or choose not to because it’s just too hard. One’s pain is not always visible. Keep that in mind as you address others during this festive time of year. It is truly a painful time for so many. That being said, for those that choose to be festive, celebrate on.
Most times you can’t tell if someone is in pain or not just by looking at them. Oh sure if someone is wearing a cast because they broke their arm or leg you know. Or maybe if someone is wearing a brace of some kind while they recover from surgery you can tell. But real mental or emotional pain can be completely undetectable. These people are often so very strong and walk around with a smile on they’re face in spite of their internal pain. All the while, they are suffering terribly in their heart and soul. Or maybe they have some type of mental illness that keeps them in constant agony in spite of their pain. Don’t ever assume that just because someone is wearing a smile that they are okay. They just may be suffering the worst pain in their life.
Please do not ever be afraid to ask for help. We are not ever tasked with going through anything alone or on our own. That’s why we have support systems in place. It does no good to have a support system in place though if we’re not going to use them. We are not mind readers even though we think we know you so well. Ask for help. There is no shame or stigma in that. We want to help. We want to be there for you. Let us in. Go ahead. You’ll feel better, and we’ll be grateful.
Use the pain you feel to empower you to overcome. Use it to make you stronger and better than you were before. Then, use what you learned from overcoming the pain to help others to do the same. Pain does not have to be overwhelming. You it to teach us. We are stronger than we know and we can overcome.
Quitting is not an option. Don’t even think about it. I know it hurts. I know you want to stop. Work through the pain. Think of things that motivate you. Think of things that inspire you. Put that vision right in front of you. You can see it. You can almost taste it. It’s just out of reach. Chase it because it will keep you from quitting. Pain is temporary. Quitting is forever. You are not a quitter.