All posts by Joseph Andrus

Just take life one day at a time

Trying to figure out how you’re going to get through everything going on in your life, is almost as difficult as what is going on in your life.  Figuring it out can be as overwhelming as the event itself.  All you need to do is slow down.  All you need to do is get through one day at at time as it comes.  It may take weeks, months, or even years to get through everything that was thrown at you.  But you got through yesterday.  You’ll get through today, and you’ll get through tomorrow.  Don’t look at the big gigantic overwhelming mountain that needs to be climbed.  Focus instead on just how much of that mountain can I climb today.  You can do it.

 

Forgiveness lets you heal

If we do not forgive, then we do not allow ourselves to move forward.  We are intentionally holding ourselves back.  Forgiveness is the key to freeing ourselves from bitterness and anger.  It doesn’t condone what was done.  You never have to condone the actions or words of others,  but it’s to your advantage to forgive their actions so you can move forward.  Go ahead.  Set yourself free.

 

Don’t compromise who you are for anyone

Why would you ever want to be someone you’re not.  Who you are is what makes you beautiful.  If some people can’t see the beauty in you for who you are, then you just need to let them go.  You don’t need them in your life.  Those are the people that are toxic and will just bring you down, because in their mind you are not good enough for them.  That’s why they try and change you.  Keep the ones that love you for exactly who you are and embrace you and lift you up for it.  You’re worth it.  Love yourself for who you are and walk tall and proud.

 

Void yourself of toxic people

When it comes to the relationships in your life it is so critical that they are not toxic in nature.  It doesn’t matter the nature of the relationship.  Whether it be friend, co worker, lover, spouse significant other or anything else, your relationships must be healthy or they will drag you down.  Keep yourself clear of toxic people.  You owe it to yourself.

 

Live every day

We have the choice to live every day.  While we may only have one life, how we live that life, and what we do with our days is a choice.   Live every single day.  Don’t spend your days watching your life go by.  Rather, make the choice (and it is a choice) to actually live every single day of your one and only life.

 

Don’t go through it alone

Accept that you don’t have to go through life’s challenges alone.  The key to remember is to not shut people out when times are tough, or challenging, or overwhelming.  We all need someone to lean on.  But we have to invite them and invite them to support us instead of shutting them out.  Go ahead.  cry on someone’s shoulder.  They may need you to return the favor some day.

 

Don’t alienate everyone

When you wake up each day choosing to be angry, bitter, mad at the world , and choosing to play the role of the victim in everything, all you do is push people away from you.  People stop calling you.  They don’t want to be around you or socialize with you.  They go to gatherings without you, or don’t invite you.  What you have done is to create a very lonely existence for yourself.  Why would anyone choose to live like that.  Even if you’re not the quintessential social butterfly, at least choose to be social.

 

What are you doing with your life?

Don’t live your life is if you can do everything tomorrow.  What if tomorrow doesn’t come.  You could get hit by a car, have a heart attack, a stroke, and so much more.  Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.  And don’t make the day to day life boring.  Live it full out every day.  Make it an adventure and have fun.  You only go around once.  Make every moment count.  You just don’t know when the last moment will be.

 

Who are you?

Don’t be a pushover.  Don’t you dare be what everyone else wants you to be.  You need to be your own person.  That’s what sets you apart.  That’s what makes you special.  It’s what makes you unique.  Nobody likes a copy cat.  Everyone love a free spirit that does their own thing and travels to the beat of their own drummer.  Don’t get sued for copying others.  Instead, let others copy you.  Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

 

What’s stopping you?

If we continually let ourselves be paralyzed by fear, we would never accomplish anything in our lives.  There would be the constant fear that what we do just wouldn’t be good enough.  Wouldn’t be perfect.  Wouldn’t be…just right.  Who are you trying to please?  The only thing that matters is that it’s good enough for you.  So what if it’s not perfect.  None of us is.  And, none of us does anything perfectly the first time.  Just do it and don’t worry about what others think.  Don’t the the opinions of others paralyze you.  If it’s not perfect (and it won’t be)  work on the finished product until it is perfect…in your eyes.  You are amazing.  Go show the world just how much.