How we come through things depends largely on what we see in the event that happens. No matter how tragic, we have the choice (and it is a choice) to focus on all the negative aspects of the situation, or we can find and accentuate whatever positives there are. No matter how bad, there is always a silver lining if we take the time to look for it. Go ahead. Take the time to find it. It makes all the difference in how well you recover and come out the other side.